Self-Investing Success

How To Set Yourself Up for Success when Self-Investing

It’s Monday afternoon in the Pacific Northwest and this morning, I walked in the door from a trip to Martha’s Vineyard, a small island off the coast of Massachusetts. I watched the sunrise over the water from the ferry boat leaving MV, watched the sunset from the airport in Cincinnati after an extended layover and made it home just past midnight.  Door-to-door yesterday was a 21 hour trip.

 Sunrise on the ferry boat leaving Martha's Vineyard

Sunrise on the ferry boat leaving Martha's Vineyard

I was in Martha’s Vineyard investing in myself. Having been a workshop junkie this last year, and having also lead workshops myself, I was comfortable and at ease. To a certain degree I felt too prepared for this workshop and while I didn’t know exactly what to expect; I thought I had a pretty good idea. I now know how easy it is to set expectations and how difficult it can be when what happens doesn’t match your expectations.  

Out of this workshop came this new list:

How To Set Yourself Up for Success when Self-Investing

Tip 1: Be Intentional - You should know exactly what the investment is for and what you want to get out of it. I knew at this time in my start-up business that I was going to need a good swift kick in the butt to fuel me over the hump that was next. In November I will have been working on my business for a year (since May full-time) and I just knew it would be the right timing. I went in looking for a spark and I got one. 

Tip 2: Don’t Assume - Attaching yourself to a very specific outcome almost 100% guarantees disappointment and worse yet, you’ll miss some valuable things along the way. Don’t assume you know just because you’ve done it before, because someone you know did or because you’ve done something similar. Every experience is different.  You'll get the most out of it when you don’t assume to know what the experience will bring and you just stay open and present in the moment.

Tip 3: Ask for What You Want - If you don’t understand something that happens either to you or during the event, find someone you can ask. When we put ourselves into a position to invest in something, that makes us a customer. You wouldn’t hesitate to tell the barista at your local coffee store that she forgot the vanilla in your latte but you also have to taste your latte before you leave to know that it is missing; show up fully to get what you want and don’t be afraid to use your voice and participate.

Tip 4: Stay Open - It’s easy to shut down when we don’t feel comfortable - it’s natural to do this (I did it this weekend). Take a few minutes to give yourself what you need and then, as quickly as possible, get back to open. Embarrassment has no place here.

Tip 5: Practice Self Care - When we take care of ourselves, physically, emotionally and mentally we get more out of every experience. It’s truly that simple. I should have done more of this on my trip; packing 2 emotional days in the middle of 2 very long days of travel was not ideal. Next time I'll plan better.

Tip 6: Find the Lesson(s) - In every self-investment experience we have the ability to walk away with so much good stuff. We also have the ability to walk away with a feeling of lack, sadness or disappointment. Even in these seemingly negative results there is so much to learn. The source of your disappointment is often a clue to that lesson.  Life is an amazing teacher; take notes.

Now that you are set up for success - find an opportunity and invest in the most important person in your life - YOU!

 Sunset in Cincinnati

Sunset in Cincinnati

Action: Find a self-investment opportunity that feels right to you in the next 3 months. Put it on your calendar and pay the fee.  Bookmark this page and before you go, give these tips a re-read to maximize that investment. 

Benefit:  Not only will you be taking care of yourself, you'll be spending your precious time and money much more wisely.